It’s Okay to be Not Okay

Whenever a friend, a relative or a colleague asks you “How are you?” I’m sure you must be giving the most common and easy reply,” I’m fine” or “I’m okay!”. But are you always really okay? I’m sure you are not always okay, but I know that rather than explaining your problems to someone, you would prefer saying that you are okay.

Listen, I know that at times, things seem chaotic. You might be having a tough time at your workplace, your anxiety is eating you, your bank balance dropping, you might be going through some failure, problems revolving around your relationships with your family members or friends and any number of other issues. Everyone has their own struggles to deal with and sometimes things don’t go the way we want them to.

It’s okay to feel things, to be emotional, to be sad or upset, to cry and let it all out. Do not consider that it will make you look weak. It makes you human. You do not have to pretend that you are okay and happy all the time. It’s okay to feel a bit negative sometimes. We all know that whatever we post on social media is just a part of our life and not our entire journey.

You might think that admitting you’re not okay might not get you anywhere in life, that you have to swallow it up and keep going. There’s nothing wrong with admitting that you’re not okay and knowing that it’s okay is the first step to letting go of the pain. No one expects you to be happy all the time. Your feelings matter no matter what they are.

Remember that in this balance sheet of our life there will be some debits (sorrows) and some credits (happy moments). Your duty is to grow stronger and braver through the pain during your tough times, by seeking support from people who love you. Take as much of time to rest, recharge, recover and breathe. Don’t forget that you know yourself better than anyone else. In the same way you share your happiness with your loved ones, share your sorrows too and just balance it all.:)

Nisha Prabhudesai